From her early days in India to a thriving life in Melbourne, Monica Kilam’s story is one of perseverance, purpose, and the enduring power of family and community.

When Monica Kilam opens her door, it is often to unannounced visitors, easy laughter, and the aroma of a meal big enough for whoever happens to walk in. A natural host and lifelong people’s person, she finds happiness in full tables and shared stories. “For me, joy is having family and friends close, making sure no one leaves hungry, and knowing my loved ones are only a call away,” she says.
Monica’s story began in India, where she and her husband lived for four years after marriage before deciding to study abroad. The plan was temporary, but Australia had other ideas. While her husband pursued higher studies, Monica realised she could work as a student spouse and soon secured a role with Siemens. That opportunity proved pivotal. “I already had my Master’s degree, and once I started working and forming friendships here, I realised how much I loved the environment and the people,” she recalls. Encouraged by friends, the couple applied for permanent residency “on a whim.” Six months later, they were Australians in the making.
More than twenty-six years have passed since then. Monica and her husband raised two sons in Melbourne while building full-time careers. Today, she works as an IT consultant and co-runs Aquila Events, an event management venture known for weddings, expos, and community functions.
Outside work, Monica finds freedom in the outdoors, especially long walks and short hikes with her local walking group. “Australia gives you opportunities,” she says. “There is respect for weekends, for personal time. It allows you to balance work, home, and passion.”
Her values, however, are rooted deeply in her family in India. Monica draws inspiration from three influential elders—her Nanaji, Mamaji, and Maasi—whose lives modelled resilience, generosity, and quiet leadership. Her grandfather built an empire from humble beginnings, always helping those less privileged. Her uncle taught her the importance of focus and staying away from negativity. Her aunt’s home was famously welcoming; no one ever left unfed. “They shaped who I am,” Monica says. “Their example of giving and caring is something I try to live by every day.”
As a mother, she believes in guidance rather than pressure. “I never forced my children into anything,” she explains. “At home, values were lived, not preached. Children learn most from what they see.” She has always encouraged her sons to stay true to themselves: self-respect, she believes, is the foundation of strong friendships.
Monica remains thoughtful about issues affecting society, particularly aged care. Having worked across sectors, she has seen the gaps firsthand. “Some centres look fine on the outside, but what matters is how people are treated,” she says. “Elders want family. Charity begins at home. And if you can, spend time in aged care or palliative care centres—even a conversation can make a difference.”
Looking ahead, she hopes her sons carry forward the values she and her husband modelled. As for herself, she dreams of trekking to Everest Base Camp one day—her personal Everest. “It is about challenging myself, standing in a place I have always admired.”
In many ways, Monica’s story is a blend of continents and cultures, anchored in community, compassion, and contribution. “If everyone chips in a little, we build a happier society,” she reflects. “That is how I try to live.”
- Tonee Sethi